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But no matter what happens tomorrow, no matter what the result is, the fight is far from over. ICE agents are grabbing people off the streets, our public institutions are being systematically destroyed, and our international and diplomatic relations with historically close allies are just, honestly, fucked right now. Today is Trans Day of Visibility, and trans and queer rights have been under steady attack by the right. As a nonbinary person and member of the trans community, I’m genuinely scared for a lot of my friends right now.
But we fight. We stand up. We survive.
If we accept defeat, we are handing victory to those who want us dead. By living and fighting, we carry on to the next day and then the day after that. I know I posted it right after the election last November, but there’s a pretty famous Joe Hill quote everyone should keep in mind: “Don’t waste any time mourning. Organize!”
Go out, hug your friends. Build a local community if you can, and get involved in your local politics. Make sure you call your Reps and Senators every day if you can, and for pete’s sake fucking vote.
We can make it as long as we don’t stop fighting.
Remember that on April 5th at 11AM Eastern/10AM Central you can join me for the Critical Thinking Witches’ Collective’s April Brew virtual event! Attendance is free, and you can register here!
It’s hard to tell how vulnerable to be on the internet anymore. How safe it it to be so exposed. Twenty years ago I’d just pour anything I was feeling into this space. While I filtered things for other people’s privacy, I never filtered my own feelings.
But I stopped at some point, and this turned into a place where I just promoted my projects and gave generic, general updates. It meant I posted less and less, and I know I’m trying to turn that around. When you make stuff like comics and books and try to talk about them and promote them online, there’s a pressure to be positive constantly. Like when you’re actively trying to provide paths for escapism for people, a lot of people get unhappy when you drag reality into things.
But things are stressful.
Sometimes we’re just holding ourselves together with tape and string, and hoping no one notices. Besides the massively important Wisconsin Supreme Court election on Tuesday (vote Crawford by the way), the outside world isn’t the only pressure. My grandmother is going into hospice, and that brings its own set of stuff. I’ve got a family of people who are all concerned about everyone else’s well being, and not enough people taking care of themselves.
And, like, for the record, I am fine. I will be fine. We have a lot of fighting to do, and I have no intention of giving up. But, like, shit is stressful, y’know? And I think it’s important to acknowledge that stress. I write these things not because I need support, but to acknowledge that they exist. To say “sometimes things are hard and we’re all human.”
Because we are.
And me move forward as best we can.
Remember that on April 5th at 11AM Eastern/10AM Central you can join me for the Critical Thinking Witches’ Collective’s April Brew virtual event! Attendance is free, and you can register here!
So I’m just going to come out and say it: My favorite episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation is “Conundrum.” It’s episode fourteen of season five, and I just deeply love it.
I don’t know if it’s because I literally just assumed Erich Anderson’s Commander McDuff was a random Enterprise officer of the week (which we saw quite often during the show) when I watched it as a kid during the original run, so the twist actually worked on eleven year old me. I don’t know if it’s because I just like a good “everyone has amnesia” story. I don’t even know if it’s just because it’s a good Ro Laren episode. I don’t know if it’s just because we learn that Starfleet doesn’t give a crap about lasers.
I just like it. It’s neat.
And I rewatched it last night, and feel that it holds up — which is why I found it deeply weird that the folks who wrote the episode actually think it’s not that good. My favorite episode of the entire seven season run of the show was a failure according to the folks who wrote it.
And maybe, as a writer and creator, I should remember that.
Like the hardest part of releasing creative works to the public is that often, after a while, I’ll start to judge those things far more harshly than when I first made them. Or I’ll compare it to the potential I thought an idea had in my head. And if I don’t reach that potential, I’ll think of it as “bad” — when it might just be slightly different than that idea. I have one hundred percent published stories that I thought were just sort of okay and later had someone tell me how much it meant to them to read it.
*cough*I Hate November*cough*
So I should make sure I remember Conundrum. That one of my favorite things to rewatch is considered one of those failures by its creators. That the things I make might have value, just not in the way I originally thought they should.
It’s just sort of how things work out.
Remember that on April 5th at 11AM Eastern/10AM Central you can join me for the Critical Thinking Witches’ Collective’s April Brew virtual event! Attendance is free, and you can register here!
I’m going to be on a panel that should start about fifteen minutes into the event, hosted by my friend Alex Wrekk (creator of the zine Brainscan and author of Stolen Sharpie Revolution). The other folks on the panel are Lane Smith (author of 78 Acts of Liberation: Tarot to Transform Our World) and Lee Cotman (author of The Good Enough Pagan Newsletter). We’re going to be talking about book publishing and demystifying the process of getting stuff into print.
I think it’s going to be fun time. I really like CTWC, but haven’t had the chance to do something with them since I was on a panel at CritWitchCon a few years ago. So when Alex asked me if I wanted to do this panel, I said yes as soon as I saw the message.
So yeah, join us and spend a Saturday morning listening to witches talk about books. It should be a good time.
First off, I stopped by “Collector Con,” a small con held at the Lismore in downtown Eau Claire. For those of you know my history with conventions, you’d know that when that place was a Ramada it was home to No Brand Con for five years in the late 2000s. I was only there for an hour or so, but it was my first time back in that convention center since I was twenty-nine years old. Like literally the last time I was there was a month before Crysta and I moved to Indiana in 2010.
Which was almost exactly fifteen years ago.
It’s a strange thing to return to a place like that. The room felt smaller than I remembered it, but it’s largely unchanged for better or for worse. It makes me miss running No Brand Con in the space. It never really felt the same after the con moved out of Eau Claire, and even though it felt great that last year in Stevens Point, nothing compares to home sometimes I guess.
Afterwards, I headed over to a friend’s house to hang out with a bunch of old friends from my early twenties. A group of three of my friends (all named David) have been regularly getting together as “The Council of Davids” for dinner for a while, and they’ve started inviting more and more of us to join them. It was a lovely evening talking with old friends (some of whom I haven’t seen in years), a just being social was, frankly, nice.
I have spent the last chunk of my life being a bit of a shut in, and I didn’t use to be. I’m at heart a social being, and I think I need to train myself to have the energy to get out more again. I, believe it or not, am happier when I actually spend time around other humans.
It’s easy to forget when sitting at home is often so much easier.
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